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Tradition… Tradition!
When I hear the word 'tradition,' I think of either Christmas tree hunting or Tevye from Fiddler on the Roof. As for traditions with kids, I think of those bigger annual traditions around holidays or special occasions. But I’ve realized that the small, everyday things we do—without even thinking—can become the most meaningful traditions of all.
Keep reading below to discover how some of the most meaningful traditions simply 'happen' on their own, plus get practical ideas for traditions you can start with your kids today
Every morning, my kids help me make coffee.
It started when my oldest was just over a year old—he'd help grind the beans, push the button, and put the straw into the cup. Now, almost five years old, he still loves doing it, and his younger sister has joined in too.
Barista in training
It's something small. I don't need their help—I could make coffee in half the time. But I choose to include them because it's become our thing. These few minutes together in the morning—being silly while stirring in the creamer or dramatically tiptoeing to deliver the mug—have become sacred.
And they know it. If they hear the coffee machine running and aren't in the kitchen, they come sprinting—faces filled with worry that they've missed their part in our morning ritual. And if I don't stop and let them take over? Trouble.
Not just coffee, but tea as well
Is this a tradition? I think so.
It's not big, complicated, or something we planned out. But it's a consistent, shared moment that provides structure and belonging. So what makes these simple traditions stick? And how can we be more intentional about creating them?
Why Small Traditions Matter
Kids thrive on routine—but traditions aren’t just about doing the same thing over and over. They create security, belonging, and connection.
The best part? They don’t have to be elaborate.
A tradition is any small, repeated moment that becomes “your thing” together:
Spot-the-Difference Walk - The same route each weekend, but look out for what’s changed. More leaves on a tree, truck parked on the street instead of driveway, porch light left on. Make it a game and score points to whoever spots the most changes.
Secret Handshake - Personalized hello or goodbye sequences unique for each child. Bonus points if it includes a spin move.
Dad’s Signature Meal - Pancakes every Saturday morning, grilled cheese Sunday nights, or Lasagna Lunch time
No-Tech Night - One night a week with board games and storytelling—extra fun if you turn off the lights and use candles for a true low-tech feel.
Dad’s Taxi Talks - Use drive time for one-on-one conversations with no distractions. Point out landmarks, share memories, or ask fun questions—kids love hearing about the world around them
You don’t have to force a tradition—just be consistent with what already brings you joy together.
Your Turn
What’s something small that’s “your thing” with your kids? Reply and let me know—I’d love to hear what traditions other dads are holding onto.
See you next Thursday,
Ted
P.S. I’m going to work on secret handshakes. I’ve never done a secret handshake and I’m very excited.
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